Your words land. I’ve come to understand that my own past experiences have made being understood such a powerful desire, and a big trigger when I judge it isn’t happening. I resonate with your reframing: I try to remind myself that I have agency. I can find other ways to be seen and understood outside of any specific interaction. Aligned with your mindful approach, I practice a silent engagement… pausing to self-connect in my body and seeking to understand what I’m feeling and ultimately what I’m longing for as a human, all separate from any particular person. This has helped me shift from chasing connection in moments where it is not likely to happen. Thank you for naming the complexity of the dynamic: Grief and self compassion can live simultaneously. That’s ultimately hopeful for me, at least.
Thank you, Minaa. This was right on time! It is challenging having these experiences in work environments where misunderstandings (intentional or unintentional) have such a heavy impact on how you are perceived, especially as a WOC.
Ooooo this the one!! Thanks for sharing!
Need this!! SO Good Minaa!
Thank you, sis!
Your words land. I’ve come to understand that my own past experiences have made being understood such a powerful desire, and a big trigger when I judge it isn’t happening. I resonate with your reframing: I try to remind myself that I have agency. I can find other ways to be seen and understood outside of any specific interaction. Aligned with your mindful approach, I practice a silent engagement… pausing to self-connect in my body and seeking to understand what I’m feeling and ultimately what I’m longing for as a human, all separate from any particular person. This has helped me shift from chasing connection in moments where it is not likely to happen. Thank you for naming the complexity of the dynamic: Grief and self compassion can live simultaneously. That’s ultimately hopeful for me, at least.
Thank you, Minaa. This was right on time! It is challenging having these experiences in work environments where misunderstandings (intentional or unintentional) have such a heavy impact on how you are perceived, especially as a WOC.
Thank you, this is very helpful. It feels especially hard to set these boundaries with close family, and to heal in those situations.