Ask for What You Need
Suffering in silence is not a badge of honor
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Growing up, asking for help never came easy for me. It wasn’t until I started dealing with the consequences of not asking for help that I learned the importance of speaking up and making requests. I also learned how to manage disappointment instead of trying to run from disappointment.
When we ask for help:
We can assess who can and who cannot meet our needs
We can identify the strengths in others and how we can lean on their strengths
We create space for emotional and physical intimacy in our relationships
We can relieve ourselves of suffering
Learning to ask for help requires us to rewrite the stories we tell ourselves about what it means to make requests. Most people don’t ask for help because they do not want to burden others, but here’s something worth remembering: You cannot decide people’s boundaries for them. You must allow people to communicate what they can or cannot do for you. Another reason why some people don’t ask for help is because they fear being disappointed when they don’t receive the help they’ve requested. Here’s something else worth remembering: Someone’s inability to help and support you does not reflect your worth and value. We all have certain needs that some people cannot fulfill, and this should not be taken personally.
Asking for help is a form of self-preservation. Tune into my latest episode of Mindful With Minaa to learn valuable ways to communicate better in your relationships.
Prompt: What story do you tell yourself about what it means to ask for help? What new story can you write about what it means to need help but also receive it?